I have 4 children. 1 girl and 3 boys. I am always active sa school nila being a stay at home mom sa aking first 3 children. Dahil active ako sympre laging PTA class president ako . Hanggang classroom lang ang gusto kong papelan di ko na kakayanin ang buong school. One time they needed parents to have a symposium with students. There were 4 parents, and I was one of them. The parents are to sit on the stage while the whole auditorium was filed with 1st to 4th year students.
Palitan ng tanungan, at first it was light and funny questions. Until one student came up to the mic feeling angry. With a tone in her voice asked this questions "Bakit po ba kailangan mag abroad ang mga magulang?" Looking at each other, a parent answered. "Para mabigyan kayo ng magandang kinabukasan". In a crying tone the student said "we don't need luxury, we need our parents." Everybody was surprised, the room was quiet and the moderator asked me to answer the child.
"When it is our OBLIGATION to feed, clothed, educates and make you a good and God fearing person, it is our CHOICE to put you in a good school like this school. No parents would want to have their children suffer the pains that they had while they were growing up. Parents would love to give you everything even it will mean SEPARATION from all of you. It is hard for you to be separated from your parent or parents. BUT just imagine how hard it is for them to leave you and live in a world they know NOBODY, the culture are different, the weather is different, the food are different and the people ARE INDIFFERENT.
And you live with your grandparents or mother or father, with your siblings, with your cousins, you are surrounded by people who loves you. Your parents do you know how they sleep, eat and what about those days of celebrations, Christmas and Birthdays. Do you know how they celebrate it? I am not taking sides with your parents, remember before I was a parent I was also a child.
And I know how it feels to be left behind. Both parents and children have his own share of sacrifices. If they have good jobs here I don't think they will leave the country. So next time you talk to your parents, tell them how much you love them and thankful for their sacrifices. Make them proud, study well and stay away from trouble. I can see all the parents on stage are crying and so are the students too.
I know sometimes you, OFWs, are thinking if it is worth leaving your family behind. Only you can answer this question. Each of you have your own reason. Whatever it is, MAKE IT WORTH ! I SALUTE YOU ALL, MY KABABAYAN OFWs. - Lucille Fernandez Mauricio
written by: Lucille Fernandez Mauricio
when i was a kid, i remember my dad always needed to go out of the country to work. i really admired all these people for they were really hard working with a lot of sacrifices.
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking about this for a week now. For me, kung magiging magulang ka then don't go. Kasi ang pagiging magulang or pagkakaroon ng pamilya is a commitment. If pupunta yung isang tao sa ibang bansa then he/she is committing himself/herself sa trabaho niya abroad. Hindi sa pamilya niya. If gusto talaga may paraan naman, always. I don't know if I make sense.
ReplyDeleteDi ko rin kaya na malayo ang asawa ko sa akin. Iniisip ko mabuti na mahirapan na magkakasama kaysa maginhawa nga malayo naman ang asawa. Takot din ako lumaki anak ko na malayo ang tatay nya
ReplyDeleteNakakarelate ako dito. May mom was OFW before. Hirap ng magkalayo ang magulang at anak. Ayan naiiyak na tuloy ako. T_T
ReplyDeleteThere's always a gray line when it comes to this kind of issue. I cannot disagree though when it comes to the future of our kids. Our son don't go to school yet but what we have in our minds already are for his future.
ReplyDeleteSeparation from your children and work abroad is sad but it's for their own good. But if you can make it here in our country and sustain your family living much better or vice versa.
ReplyDeleteI hope there would come a time that people don't need to go abroad to provide for a family and live comfortably.
ReplyDeleteI have always believed that parents belong where their children are but sometimes circumstances do not permit it so families will have to find their way in such realities.
ReplyDeletethis is very inspiring! i was planning my wedding before in SG so i have to leave my daughter in like a year and indeed it is very hard. but because all of us has own reasons why still everything is surely for good. this is a very good post. truly reach out to those OFW's
ReplyDeleteIt is a sad reality that most OFW Filipinos are facing, they have to choose between having a complete family together in the Philippines but finances will suffer or one or two parents will go abroad to keep the family together in the future.
ReplyDeleteI think kung hindi talaga kaya financially ng magulang ma sustain yung mga needs ng buong family siguro kailangan na mag abroad pero kung kaya naman hindi na kina-kailangan.
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