Last night while I was putting on my 3 years old sons pajamas he said "Mommy,I can't draw,I can't draw a circle ,I can't draw a triangle" with his left hand held up making circles. I told him ,"It's okay, baby just keep on trying ,I know you can do it,don't worry about it, just keep practicing". At his age he already worries about school. And as a parent,I was alarmed how his school performance affects his young mind..Children may be little but they have feelings too and we should be sensitive about it .The way family members treats each other greatly influences a childs emotional health and development.Our childrens emotional needs are important and these are:
1. Love- Our child needs love.As your child grow older, let them know often of your love by sharing your time,listening and being involved in their activities.The infants needs holding ,smiling ,singing ,cuddling and simple games.
2.Security-Parents love is the best security we can give them.Never threaten to abandom them if they don't listen or stubborn. And if you are busy working mom ,make sure to choose a babysitter that your children like and know.
3.Praise- We should learn to praise our children even if they did not make it to the top or are not succesful .It can be verbal or a hug or a simple pat on the back.When you praise them ,they even try harder.
4.Acceptance-Don't dwell on your chidrens shortcomings.Encourage your child to improve in weaker areas and praise their successes.
This is the paper doll that they did yesterday that makes him worreid because he can't draw a face using shapes.
As of this writing ,my son came back from school and I asked how was school and if he was able to draw a circle.He answered quickly and cheerfully "yes,I did it!"! while raising his left hand up in the air.My eldest son also told me that his classmate even said inside the school bus that J draw a circle. Well,what else can I say.He figured out his own worry and I praised him for it.
1. Love- Our child needs love.As your child grow older, let them know often of your love by sharing your time,listening and being involved in their activities.The infants needs holding ,smiling ,singing ,cuddling and simple games.
2.Security-Parents love is the best security we can give them.Never threaten to abandom them if they don't listen or stubborn. And if you are busy working mom ,make sure to choose a babysitter that your children like and know.
3.Praise- We should learn to praise our children even if they did not make it to the top or are not succesful .It can be verbal or a hug or a simple pat on the back.When you praise them ,they even try harder.
4.Acceptance-Don't dwell on your chidrens shortcomings.Encourage your child to improve in weaker areas and praise their successes.
As of this writing ,my son came back from school and I asked how was school and if he was able to draw a circle.He answered quickly and cheerfully "yes,I did it!"! while raising his left hand up in the air.My eldest son also told me that his classmate even said inside the school bus that J draw a circle. Well,what else can I say.He figured out his own worry and I praised him for it.
at least he shows his interest to learn in school unlike my son before he don't want to go schooling on his first step in school
ReplyDeleteYah, it's very important for parents to learn how to be parents, because that's the only way, I believe, we can make the world a better place to live in. We the parents are their heroes, so, why should we still let them praise superman, superwoman, who are teaching about impractical things that you must have to have an enormous power to be able to overcome adversaries. I salute you for doing your job well, and I hope more mothers will emulate you!
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day and may HE bless you and your family with good health!
Appreciation and praising your childs work is one of the best things parents can do. I never experienced it with my parents but I wont ever skip the chance of letting my daughter know how proud I am as her mum. Nice post. I can relate.
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I have a son who is 2 years old and when he's being terrible I sometimes threaten him because I'm running out of patience. Better improve my parenting skills especially in understanding what my son really needs.
ReplyDeleteI am still single but I wish to be a mom in the future too. I know it's difficult to raise a kid that why I salute all the mons (specially mommy bloggers) out there! :)
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nakakatuwa talagang malaman na lumalaki na talaga si J, akalain mo noon, karga karga ko lang siyo at pinapatahan sa pag-iyak :)
ReplyDeleteYour son is very lucky to have you as his mom..
ReplyDeleteand congrats on your so for learning how to draw shapes :)
This is really important.
ReplyDeleteparents should read this :D
malaking parte ang bawat nakikita at nararamdaman ng bata sa kanilang buong pagkatao pagtanda nila :D
thanks for the wonderful suggestions in raising a kid :) im not yet on this stage but i find it very helpful when my time comes!
ReplyDeleteit's hard to be a parent. i know this because i have a 2 year old daughter. it's now that i realize the hard work that my parents are putting on with me since i was a kid and with that i am following their ways on how they have disciplined me.
ReplyDeleteawwww... such a sweet child. The innocence of the child is adorable. What you wrote is very true...I am just saddened how cruel and mean some parents are treating their kids. Yung iba nasasaktan na nga dahil nadapa or something, kinukurot pa dahil malikot! haaayyynaku! Thanks for sharing sis.
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so sweet naman ni mommy. and your kid is so smart. i have a 3 years old niece who is attending special school because of autism. hindi naman ganun ka grabe but she's so hyper, her talking already improved a lot since the diagnosis but all of us really needs patience. minsan nakakapagod talaga wee hours in the morning active pa din sya, im only 35 and im getting tired taking care of her for a few hours lang whenever she visits me at my place, much more her parents. But this is love, we just have to be there for her all the time,but we are very grateful to see good improvements.
ReplyDeleteI can relate in your post Mommy Tess. I do the same way with my toddler in fact I wrote similar topic. Because I am a stay-at-home mum for her I'm always here and available for her anytime, all day in a week to support her. Just want to share this to you, 2 days ago my daughter and I had a bath. She hug and kisses me, look me in the eye and says "You're bestfriend mummy" She's only 30 months. So sweet and amazing experience that my daughter tells me that lines. Not too many children nowadays tell that to their parents. I'm very lucky to have her. I think she saw that we are very closed to each other we're not like mother and daughter relationship and now we're bestfriends. http://jennyotoole.blogspot.com/2011/11/pearl-next-picassa.html
ReplyDeleteHi there, thanks for dropping my my blog!
ReplyDeleteYour little one sounds adorable. And kudos on being so positive in your parenting, hopefully I can do the same when the time comes. :)
maybe someday i'll experience this..but now i'll enjoy first every minute of being the child..xD
ReplyDeleteHello, Tess. I always get mushy whenever I read posts like this. You see, I came from a broken family. Blogs about parenting probably never existed when I was a kid. Parents had to make do with their instincts and what they think is right. I was never brought up unscathed, and I sometimes blame my parents about my imperfections. Now this doesn't mean I don't love them. I love them to death. I'm just thinking that maybe things would have been a little easier for my parents and their children if your blog already existed when I was still a child.
ReplyDeletei must admit: i need to brush up on my patience...specially with my 3year old. i'd like to think i'm getting better. :)
ReplyDeleteAlthough I don't have a child yet I'm very close to my nephew. I give him as much love and attention as a mom can give.
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