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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Is Marriage Really Important at All ?

photo by:Nur Emir

Or shall we just stay out of it? Why do people get married? Is it because of love or companionship? What difference does it make if we just live together, have children without a piece of paper called marriage license?Do not get me wrong, I am not against marriage .In fact, I am happily married and if I have to choose between being single and married, I would definitely choose the last one.

I have been married twice, obviously the first one was a failure .We ended up into a divorced  but that experienced did not stop me from falling in love again and enter into a complicated yet fulfilling family life once more. My  husband  now is a wonderful man and I cannot ask for more. But ,marriage is not always a bed of roses ,couples do argue and fight once in a while which is normal .I mean normal in the sense that none of you hit each other, throw furnitures  into each others face or anything which is beyond your control. A petty lover's quarrel and little misunderstanding added spice in a couple's life.I remember one time, we just got married when we had our first and only big fight over a pair of shoes. I want to keep them inside the cabinet shelves together with some other shoes while he wanted it right on his bedside. We argued over it. I got mad and did not talk to him for a day. He was pissed off  for the silent treatment  so he packed all of my things  to throw me back into my company hostel. I got up from the bed, grabbed my purse, said "Bye!" and headed to the stairways. He stopped me and was pleading to talk things over and  not to leave him. Luckily we did end up together again  and his working pair of shoes still stays on his bedside until now. I guess, he won or we both won?.But who cares anyway.What I like from my husband is his being sweet and understanding and most of all, he loves me more than I love him. Oh, if given a chance to go back from my past, I will still choose him .

There are people who prefers live-in over marriage.Whatever their reasons are is non of our business.We all have choices to stay in love and  that is to find the right one to grow old together whether by getting into a marriage or just living in together for good or for a short period of time. Whatever it is, one thing is for sure,love always finds a way. Don't stop from loving all over again if things did not work out for the first time.


35 comments:

  1. I married my wife, because, I want to grow old with her, in marriage... I agree, it's non of our business if other people want to live-in together, outside marriage, after all, we all have our own lives to worry about... HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! =)

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  2. iba pa rin po kasi kung may Bless ni Lord ang pagsasama ng nagmamahalan :)

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  3. marriage is still important but no one is forced to get married and no should force themselves to get married simply because others are marrying. That is why it takes a lot of reflective decision making before you commit to marriage. It is not for everyone in the same way celibacy is not for everyone. :-)

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  4. We just celebrate our 25th (silver) anniversary last december 14. A marriage is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year.

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  5. what more can I say? :)being married is still a fulfillment for some. Some are blessed and some didn't work. I just pray that we all find love and respect. Let God guide us in every relationship we're in.

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  6. With me, yes I find it important :) but in my opinion, it has to be thought of a million times. It is easy to get in but hard to get out hehe

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  7. for me marriage is still the ultimate expression of love, and we really shouldn't judge others over their decision to stay married, live together. separate or be single...we will never know what really happens between couples, everyone has different persona and perspective...what works for you might not work for others...

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  8. I would like to be married too. It's still a sign of commitment despite the number of broken marriages out there. If you really want to be with someone, then you must be willing to commit. :)

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  9. That is what I am afraid of when it comes to marriage - divorce. Now I don't know who would be the right guy for you. I don't like break ups. I don't move on easily. Good thing you fall in love again and moved on from the past.

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  10. Yes, marriage is very important. HIndi lang para sa mag-asawa to kundi para sa mga anak rin at lalo na sa buong pamilya.

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  11. I would love to get married to my boyf because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. SO yea it is important! All the best to you and your blog. Happy 2012.

    koreandoll | miss angel

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  12. First of all, a couple GROWS in love. Those trials will make it happen if both are focused in making a good couple relationship. To make it successful, though, God should be a couple's partner, at the center of the relationship. God was the author of marriage so I go for it because I know it is the best.

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  13. I believe in marriage but I don't believe in myself getting married. I think marriage is not for everyone. I don't think I can find anyone who can stand my crazy ideas =)

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  14. Marriage is important and that's one relationship I want to get into one day.

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  15. I still believe in the power of marriage. It is very essential for me. Every couple should be bless by God .

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  16. Marriage is not taken for granted. In social point of view, marriage is just a piece of paper signed both by the bride and the groom. Then what else. But when we look really profoundly on the very reason why there is marriage. Spiritually, it is ordained of God. He wanted every man and woman to be one flesh by leaving their parents and started their own family. Thus, a family is the basic unit of a society, where it began with the matrimony of marriage. Other religious sector advocate an eternal marriage, which points to a family which is together forever, for time and eternity.

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  17. Marriage is not taken for granted. In social point of view, marriage is just a piece of paper signed both by the bride and the groom. Then what else. But when we look really profoundly on the very reason why there is marriage. Spiritually, it is ordained of God. He wanted every man and woman to be one flesh by leaving their parents and started their own family. Thus, a family is the basic unit of a society, where it began with the matrimony of marriage. Other religious sector advocate an eternal marriage, which points to a family which is together forever, for time and eternity.

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  18. well it depends on what they really prefer. As Filipinos, we always have this vouch for marriage because its part of our culture. For some, marriage is sort of security for both parties. But for some, it's a sacred vow. A vow that you will be forever love that person through thick and thin.

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  19. marriage is important of course, but from what i learned by experience it shouldn't be hurried and should be thought of 100 time over before leaping into it, it's not an easy place to be in, especially if there's kids involved.

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  20. One of the most inspiring post I read today! It took away all my worries in getting to know who Mr. Right is... :)Cheers to you and your husband! <3

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  21. Marriage is probably not for everyone because so many are miserable in their marriages. So I guess it's really a personal decision, and those who choose that path... well no judgement. I'm an into-marriage-gal though, and even if it doesn't work out in the end [God forbid, noooo!}, no regrets. :)

    Happy New Year, Tess!

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  22. i just love your thoughts mamiTess

    God Bless!

    how great thou art

    - FranCis

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  23. It is important, that is why my beau and I are saving up so we can have that special moment together soon.

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  24. at young age we won't feel that marriage is important, but as days goes on we will need a company... without company we can't live in this world... so marriage is important part of life...

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  25. I'm young so I won't be speaking from experience. But I do believe marriage is important if you do find the right one.

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  26. I'm young so I won't be speaking from experience. But I do believe marriage is important if you do find the right one.

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  27. it really depends... there's no such formula of a marriage that works or not... ironic but sometimes, couples who are out of wedding live perfectly in love.

    and those who are married tend to forget to maintain the love...

    marriage is a ceremony, if you both believe in its sacredness then give it importance. if you believe that you can work the relationship so well even without marriage... all you have to do is prove it.

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  28. Marriage is an arrangement by God with himself being the first officiator...There is only one reason that the bible allows as ground for divorce: adultery(fornication). However, life being threatened, unwillingness of one to support the family and threat to one's beliefs are seen also as acceptable, only one cannot remarry with these cases. Just sharing what I know of the bible. Have a lovely weekend. :)

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  29. Marriage is important if two people are deeply in-love with each other. There are temptations in every relationship but if you trust someone you love with all my heart. I know the marriage will survive. I have been married for almost 10 years now and still connected, our marriage is not perfect but despite the difference we have, we still love each other and be their for each other. Visiting from Thursday Brownies by the way :-) Hope that you can return the visit too.

    http://www.simplyjess.info/finally-bought-a-sunglasses/

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  30. Marriage is really important for me. I know we are not perfect as a couple but we talk a lot for our differences..love,love,love!
    Visiting from Thursday Brownies!

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  31. This post is so sweet. Thanks for inspiring everyone to continue loving. Years from now, I'll definitely choose getting married over staying in a relationship. For now, I'll settle with being with BF muna. :)

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  32. i am single and hoping to get married someday but maybe open with live in set up.

    live in for me is for practical and liberal minds. you can't tell if two persons suit to each other until they live under one roof. In union, it is not only about love and sex, you know. but it's an unstable status.

    marriage is beautiful and ideal thing if the couple will stick to their vows.

    whether in live in or marriage, i believe that there must be faith and love.

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  33. I do not agree in living in together without getting married. I am still a traditional person..

    Visiting for TB! Here's my share- hope you can stop by:)

    http://www.mommys4seasonsjourney.com/2011/12/willow-mountain-coffee-table.html

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  34. i'm not married yet but i've gotten a lot of ideas from here Ate Tess..

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